What if you're not actually "bad at relaxing"?


Hi Reader,

I spent two hours rage-cleaning my house.

Not because it needed it.

Because I couldn't sit still.

I told myself I was "being productive."

But if I'm honest...

I was avoiding the discomfort of doing... nothing.

The house looked great.

I still felt prickly.

It turns out scrubbing counters doesn't scrub energy.

That morning uncovered something I hadn't fully seen before...

I can't access a true state of leisure if I haven't first cleared my energy.

The body knows.

And it can't be tricked.

Have you ever finally had a free afternoon...

...and instead of enjoying it, you started thinking about everything else you should be doing?

The laundry.

That email you forgot to answer.

The project you could get ahead on.

The closet you've been meaning to organize.

You finally have permission to rest...

...but somehow, resting feels wrong.

If that sounds familiar, you're not alone.

I've been running a little experiment this summer that I'm calling my Leisure Lab.

What started as an attempt to simply slow down has uncovered a lot more than I expected—including:

  • Why I thought rest had to be earned
  • The surprising relationship between doing and being
  • And why changing just one word has completely shifted the way I approach my days

I shared the biggest lessons (so far) in my latest blog post.

→ Read the full blog here: What My “Leisure Lab” Is Teaching Me About Being a Hyper-Achiever​
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I'd love to know what resonates with you.

Kristi

Kristi Baxter​
Coach, Mindset Master & Change Partner
Helping high-achieving professionals lead with clarity + confidence

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Kristi Baxter

I’m Kristi Baxter, a leadership and mindset coach who helps high-achieving professionals overcome self-doubt, quiet their inner critic, and lead with clarity and confidence. Because true leadership starts from within—and confidence is a skill you can build.

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